Blind Dating: Breaking Down the Stereotype
Blind dating. Yeah, tell me about it. Not the most glamourous way to spend an evening. Some of my blind dates were so fascinated why I was with them on a blind date. And they had to let me know. Yes, I was willing to be set up on a blind date. Over and over again, truthfully. I decided not to tell whomever asked what number he was on a really short list of success. Instead, I helped break down the stereotype that blind dating is for those who cannot inspire or secure their own dates.
I would tell them my blind dating is meeting a special person who someone in your life thought you were special enough to meet. With that, they'd ask if I accepted the date with him because all my friends were married and I was feeling desperate.
First off, the whole ‘desperate girl in her thirties’ thing is not true, because women have choices. We have careers, can have children for years, can adopt, maybe don’t want kids or a family, or even a husband, and are generally too busy to obsess about it. No girl sits home waiting for him because she is desperate and in her thirties. We don't have to settle for just 'man,'so why not advertise what we wants and simply trust that he might be out there? I always thought it was brave that women out there accepted dates sight unseen.
I was always glad when men were open to learn all the mystical wonders of my dating world. I sometimes got crazy and felt compelled to take my teachings to a global level. I explained the way traditional Chinese couples start a relationship; it’s through being introduced. Once acquainted, they quickly evaluate mutual interest, and then either begin a serious relationship or break it off. So if you wanted a meaningful relationship, the easiest way would be for someone to introduce you to a woman. At least, it seems to work in other cultures.